On Blogging and Boxes

First off, sorry I haven’t written in awhile! I ended up coming down with the flu, which has apparently turned into bronchitis, so I’ve been feeling really run down and physically rotten over the last little while. That said, emotionally I’m in a much better place than I was in the last time I wrote. Things are still hard, but I’m pushing ahead and working on a ton of stuff to help make myself and my life better, so even though things are still tough I’m feeling much more hopeful than I was. Thank you to all of you who have written me such sweet, kind messages, I didn’t actually get to read them until today, but they really made my day and made me feel so much better. ♥

I’ve been thinking a lot over the last month or two about the future of this blog – or rather, the next blog, since I’ve been talking about changing and moving my blog for awhile now and I still fully intend to do that. One thing I keep getting hung up on is the direction I want to take this into in the future, and realizing that blogging these days tends to be very much about fitting into a niche, and putting ourselves into quite restrictive boxes and identities, if you will, and this thought has been puzzling and troubling me for awhile, for a number of reasons.

Like most, if not all of us, throughout my life I’ve had many people try to fit me into boxes and say “you are this”, as if whatever “this” is is all that I am, and struggling against that, because I don’t fit neatly into any one box – none of us do – and this has been one of the things that has troubled me a lot in life. I’m sick of boxes, the ones others tried to fit me into, the ones I tried to put myself into just to find a place where I could exist in this world, all of it, I’m tired of it. I know that in the blogging world fitting into a niche or box doesn’t have the same potentially devastating real life effects, but at the same time, I’m just tired of trying to be one thing, stick to one thing, when there is so much more to me. Do I want to keep writing about sewing and fashion? Of course, because those are things that I enjoy writing about, but I’d also love to write more about things like films, books and music (vintage or otherwise), history, society, humour…as well as writing more about the issues that are important to me and try to help uplift and empower others and give them a space where they can speak about these things too and feel like they are being heard.

Maybe I just have too many interests and passions to fit into one blog, or maybe I’m taking this whole thing way too seriously, but it has been a bit of a concern of mine going forward, perhaps a ridiculous concern, but a real concern nevertheless, worrying if anyone would want to read it, or if it would come across as too scattered and unfocused. This is something that has been bleeding through into this blog over the last year in particular as I’ve been writing or commenting on more serious subject matter (such as politics, suicide, abuse, etc), and while it hasn’t exactly driven anyone away I’ve sort of worried over time that people might get annoyed that the focus has been unintentionally shifting into different directions than just strictly sewing and the cool vintage stuff I love and started this blog to write about in the first place.

I know I’ll still want to interview people once I’ve moved to the next blog, because I really love and enjoy it and have gotten to learn so much from so many incredibly interesting and talented women. I know I’m still going to want to write about sewing and vintage fashion, etc, but I just want to be able to write about other things that I’m passionate about as well without feeling like it’s jarring, I want those different topics to just feel more like an organic part of what I’m doing. Because sewing and my love of fun vintage stuff isn’t all that I am (just like it isn’t all that any of you are), I’m also a writer, a musician, and so many other things that just can’t possibly fit into one small box or blog.

Will opening things up more and writing about different topics make my blog “unmarketable”? Maybe. At the end of the day, do I really care? Not particularly, because what matters more is the friendships I’ve made here in the last year and a half or so, and the hope that those will carry over into whatever I do next, because the most amazing part of running this blog, the thing I’ve always been so grateful for, is the connections I’ve formed with all of you. As I’ve said before, you’ve all helped me in ways that I can never truly express or thank you for, and the most important thing to come out of this whole blogging experience has been all of you who keep coming back, keep reading, keep commenting and sharing yourselves and your lives and your love and strength with me. I hope I’ve been able to give you something positive back in return during all of this, as I’ve muddled through learning how all of this blogging stuff works in this day and age – even if it was just laughing at some of my dumb jokes or my appalling stitching!

Like I said, maybe I’m thinking about all of this way too deeply, and my worries or concerns are completely unfounded. I guess at the end of the day, I’m just still trying to figure all of this out and decide where to go from here. I hope that whatever I do, or wherever I go, I’ll see you there.


15 thoughts on “On Blogging and Boxes

  1. I do believe that you being “you”, and letting that shine through on your domain is the most unique, appealing, and therefore “marketable” thing you can do blogging for yourself…and others! I enjoy what you have to say!

    You have my best wishes to feel better soon. I had a flu that turned into a bad case of bronchitis back in April, and it has been one of the hardest things to get over. Bronchitis really effects your lungs, and I’ve learned…be easy on yourself, girl while you heal! Take care of yourself!

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  2. I don’t know, I think we can run into problems blogging to be marketable or please others or what have you. Unless you’re really out to target an audience and make the big bucks, authenticity seems to be what makes blogs distinct and keeps readers engaged. And why blog unless you’re passionate about whatever you’re writing about?

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  3. Way I see it, this is YOUR blog and you should be able to write what you feel like writing. If you want to do an entry about keychains one day and suicide the next, why not? You’re a talented writer and I think people will flock to interesting writing if it touches them. The people reading your blog might have certain topics that interest them the most–person A might read and reply to each new entry, person B might stick to the lighter stuff, person C might stick with the heavy stuff, etc.

    Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck. And I hope you feel better soon. 🙂

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  4. First of all, hope you feel better soon with your bronchitis, and I’m glad you are already feeling better otherwise! 🙂
    Regarding the blog: just ask yourself why you are writing it. Is it because it earns you money? Then it’s a source of income, a commercial thing, and commercial rules apply. Or is it that you just need an outlet, so the writing is its own reward? Then put your vanity aside, stop counting the number of likes and followers and write whatever you want in whatever way you want. If you are writing essentially for yourself, then you don’t need to worry about what the readers will think.
    You can never please everyone, not in real life and not on the internet, so try to please yourself, because this is the one person who’s always around. 😉

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  5. Quick comment on your blog and the many directions you might want to go with it. Your blog name and banner are really neat, and allow for lots of topics that are a natural extension of you and your interests. I say keep all of it, and blog about what you want to say. Your blog name and heading to me imply all kinds of fun culture topics.

    I do get what you mean about wanting to have a place to rant. I’ve thought about that too. For now, I’ve stifled it, because I don’t want my blog to be an angry place. If that is your thinking, I say just start a second blog for being outspoken. You will reach people who identify with those issues, and they will follow that blog. It might become a lively discussion place.

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    • Aww, I wish I could keep the name/banner/address, and all of that fun stuff, but unfortunately a move and name change, etc, definitely feel necessary – because my ex husband has the address to this blog and it feels very weird and uncomfortable (and kind of unsafe at times) posting here knowing that at any given moment he could read what I’ve written.

      I’ve tried to continue writing as much as I can and not completely censor myself here during the last few months, but have been finding it harder and harder to post anything at all because of the uneasy feeling I get when I’m writing, knowing that he could read it. That feeling has unfortunately changed the way I feel about this blog as a whole, and turned it from a fun place where I could write and chat with all of you, to a place where I don’t really feel safe being. I would’ve jumped ship immediately to a new blog back in August when all of this went down, but I’ve had so many other things to put in place IRL that I haven’t been able to make the blog move happen as quickly as I would like. I don’t necessarily want a place to rant exactly, but since I have to move this blog anyway, I want to create a space where I can explore a whole bunch of different topics (as well as the ones I already enjoy writing about, like sewing), but also, most importantly, where don’t feel like my words are potentially being read by my abuser. It’s a messy situation.


  6. LOVE this! Girl you do you! And who cares what anyone else thinks! I am such a Gemini that I can not fit myself into a box, and I don’t want too. Our blogs are an extension of ourselves, and I look at it as having coffee and talking with friends when I blog. And when I have coffee with friends we tend to talk about anything and everything. Thus it maybe more marketable, but it certainly is not as authentic. Can not wait to see where your next blogging endeavors leads you beauty! ❤

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  7. Sometimes I find it hard to only write about my topic so I understand what are you saying completely! Wishing you the best with your blog, I will definitely be reading no matter which way you decide to present it. 🙂

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  8. I know what you mean about not writing for awhile. It’s been hard for me to write a lot lately too cause it’s been a busy hard time but I’m back. To it. 😊 hope you’re doing well. Big hugs.


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